Breaking that cycle

a true love story

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Who doesn't love a love story?

And these following few sentences may not seem like a traditional love story, but please bear with me.

So many families with unresolved trauma are likely to pass maladaptive coping strategies and distrustful views of life onto the generations and generations that follow.

Trauma includes addiction, domestic violence, child abuse, and crime.

Not anywhere less traumatic than previously mentioned, but lack of proper communication, family secrets, and correct education regarding relationships, race, and the meaning of love could also have a case in sending out the wrong message to the younger generation.

The core values and beliefs instilled by our parents and surrounding groups could have a massive impact on us as individuals.

And the people we choose to be around will determine how strong those beliefs will continue and, in turn, be passed on to those who follow.

If the values shown to us as children and the beliefs do not align with us as we get older... this is breaking the cycle.

Breaking the cycle is a scary proposition. To go against all that has been shown to us, all that we know to be correct, wouldn't it be easier to carry on?

Not thread on anyone's toes. Keep everyone happy.

Anyways,

Thanks for being patient

Now here's the love story.

Watching the Netflix show Harry and Megan is when the idea of this email hit me,

A man prepared to stand up and say NO to years and years of rulings.

Someone who would not believe "this is the way it is."

He was putting his hand up and apologizing for his actions as a youth.

To understand and be correctly educated on all levels of racism and human rights.

Not only against his family but an institution, as it was called in the show.

Generations and generations of "this are the way it is."

Was finally being questioned.

Beliefs instilled within him by a mother he lost aged 12 were very strongly there.

The Values instilled regarding family and the importance of their privacy.

And how the intrusion of this privacy ruined his mother's life.

And how he was not allowing it to happen to his family.

And he felt so strongly about this that he walked away, away from it all.

Now not precisely from prince to a pauper, but not only a title, but he also lost friends and family.

That is true love when beliefs and values cannot be cast aside.

When we meet another with the same values and beliefs when love comes first before titles and traditions.

To educate and show their children what is right in the world and how to behave.

When we believe in something so deeply, we can't ignore it, whatever the consequences.

We all have that choice. We all have our core values and beliefs; they are the deal-breakers in life if we feel strongly about them.

Or we can ignore them and allow others to behave in ways we disagree with, which continues the cycle.

This action shows those around us, "this is the way it is."

What cycles are you prepared to break?

To encourage the youth and those who look to us for a better way of life.

A more fulfilling and happier way of living that meets good values and beliefs.

The choice, as always, is yours.

As always, thanks for reading.

And I wish all of you and your families a very merry Christmas.

Marcus.