The why will always beat the fear

if our why is strong enough.

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The Why will always outdo the fear.

The reason we do anything in life comes with a why.

From the obvious things such as going to work, school, eating, and drinking, to also why we do not eat certain foods and drink.

It is when the why gets looked at closer, that fear appears.

If the truthful answer we give ourselves leaves us feeling overwhelmed and scared, it is easier to ignore it and hope that it goes away, or something will happen to help us fix it.

But once that why has been asked to ourselves, it will always linger and pop up again whether we like it or not, when you have another bad day at work or are left upset within that relationship yet again, or you see someone take that leap and do something you always wished you had done, that why will seem louder than ever before.

So, this week I, will launch my self-help journal, It has been published and finally, I will have it available to buy, to hopefully encourage others to start their journaling journey and discover areas about themselves previously unknown.

I'll admit it is very overwhelming and hard to acknowledge at times when people ask me about it or ask how they may be able to buy it for themselves or as a present for a friend.

Does that inner critic raise his voice, I'll be honest, nope not really, perhaps a small murmur or whisper, but that has more to do with the venue or the refreshments I should have, but for the journal itself, Not at all, why? Because I have lived it, I have practiced it and have witnessed those around me applying each chapter to their lives separately and saw how good the outcome was, for them and me.

The fear, was in sending it to people to have a read, to receive feedback, and possible ideas to use or take out. There were those I trusted with their opinion and I admit it was a big ask, to go through the different chapters and make comments on something, but to those who did this, I will always be forever grateful. There were of course some who did not and that's ok too, for their why is something I cannot control.

Once completed, putting it out there was the next fear, and one I did not overcome till I saw and held the finished copy in my own hands, I knew then it was all worth it.

A brilliant-minded friend of mine Jodi Kennedy suggested a podcast to explain each chapter was planted in my head, yet the thoughts of doing that scared the life out of me, that fear, all that negative talk inside my head, so I put that onto a very high shelf (but I could always see it every time the journal was mentioned), until a stranger ( hi Vicki) sitting beside me in a restaurant complimented me on my voice after hearing me on a podcast and urged me to do my own. As soon as I left there I got on that stool and took that fear down off that shelf.

And I am so glad I did, for my why's for each chapter and part of the book, the idea behind them and the areas in which I chose was how I believed would help others as it has helped me.

But by hearing and sharing each podcast with different guests I learned so much more about what and how this journal will work for them. I thank each and every one of them for sharing with me in those moments, for it was a podcast for others to hear, I was Marcus a friend, not a therapist, so for them to open up and explain to me how the journal will help them, meant so much to me.

For journaling is an individual journey, it will be as honest and real as we make it, only we are accountable for what we put in it and the changes we make.

But to hear those stories, of raw honesty and feelings around Relationships, Boundaries, Minding that Inner Child, communication, and how we see Self, really filled me with so much more insight than I had, and I hope those who listened to them learned from them as well.

Each chapter will have meaning to us all differently we will have our whys, and if we want to acomplish something then the whys will beat those fears.

4 weeks to ease our ways out of the comfort zone, 4 weeks to acheive so much to make it a habit we continue on into the next chapter/area of our lives we wish to work on. And we can all do it together, my why? To create a movement to encourage others to add something into their lives to help them be a feel better than the previous day.

To make peace with the What was, to sit with and appreicate the present day in the What is, but to allow space and make the changes to be a version of ourselves and get excited for the What Now?

To share our experiences on social media, to allow others to see what is possible no matter how big or small it is, it is change.

And if nothing changes, nothing will change.

That is the Why, that fear will not win.

As always, thanks for reading

link to the podcasts (all relatively short)

Marcus.