when failure can be positive

there is learning in failing

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Manifesting our dreams, gratitude journalling, and affirmations are all areas we use at the end or beginning of each day to provide positivity in our lives.

Going to bed each night and finding that one thing that I am most grateful for, no matter how difficult or bad the day was, finding that one thing can end the day on a good note, going to sleep to encourage waking up to take on the following day from a positive outlook.

Lately, though, I have looked deeper and examined myself more carefully to grow through a negative stance. A surprise, perhaps, to read, but when used correctly, it gives me the same results as a previously used gratitude one.

I ask myself, "what did I fail at today"?

What areas or behaviors, responses, or reactions could I have done better?

Were there conversations that could have gone better or things I have put off and not addressed?

Were there emotions, feelings, or thoughts throughout the day that did not serve me how I would like?

Naming them and owning them allows me to become more aware of them, to make them less in the future.

If I attempt a new task or hobby, should boundaries I have tried to instill slide, I own them and let them go at that moment to do better the next day or the next time I decide to attempt that task.

This action is not to say I won't fail again, but it allows me not to carry it or enable it to burden me and hold me for ransom.

Today may be better than yesterday, but with the help of the proper focus and awareness, it will not be as good tomorrow.

We have somehow learned to develop a negative mindset, that victim mentality, when all around us seem to be constantly falling apart, refusing to acknowledge our work on ourselves, forgetting the tools we have developed.

This attitude happens through many ups and downs; we incur, forgetting the fighting child within us.

We all, as children, tried to walk our first steps, taking more steps with each attempt yet falling time and time again.

Did we give up and say to ourselves, "this walking malarkey isn't for me?"

No, we did not. We got right back up and tried again.

Showing strength and determination, and resilience inside us at such a young age, even before we knew what that meant.

We may have failed numerous times but eventually succeeded without constant fall after fall.

So I invite you to ask yourself honestly, what did I fail at today, and how will I improve that tomorrow?

Own it and let it go.

And do it with kindness and care towards oneself.

As always, thanks for reading.

Marcus.